Saying “No” to Offers of Alcohol

Tips to help for offering alcohol

If it helps you, have a few easy explanations in your back pocket. Quick answers that will appease the offerer, but don’t necessarily divulge too much personal information. These add emphasis to your “no” and can be something like:

  • I’m on antibiotics I can’t mix with alcohol

  • I’m participating in “Sober October”

  • I’m driving tonight

  • I don’t feel like drinking tonight

  • I feel better when I don’t drink


Another thing to remember is that you’re going to feel like people are paying more attention to you than they really are. This is a very freeing idea! It’s easy to feel like you’re sticking out like a sore thumb if you’re the only one not drinking, but the truth is, most people won’t notice. Carry this freedom into the rest of your life and you’ll really begin to feel its power. When you’re feeling self conscious, remember that what feels like a big deal to you likely doesn’t register to others. Carry on with your bad self.


Finally, be confident in and proud of your decision not to drink. The more sure of this choice you are, the easier it will be to turn down alcohol. Before heading out for the night, do a little journaling about your why. Play the tape through and imagine yourself waking up the next morning without a hangover. Feel confident that you have made a wonderful choice for your emotional and physical health, and deliver your “no thank you” with determination.