The Happiness Advantage
If you came into this thing telling yourself that you aren’t “one of those people” who reads self-helpy, woo-woo personal development kind of books, I hate to break it to you, buuuuut you are. And that is wonderful. Personal development lit gets a bad wrap, but there’s something really incredible about people wanting to better themselves. And by downloading this app, you’ve done just that.
So! I preface today’s chat with this, because I’ve got another book recommendation for you. (Is anyone else’s “to read” bookstack getting a little out of control, or just mine?) As we discuss Positive Psychology, we’ve talked about the different components we can cultivate to lead a happier, more fulfilled life, and Shawn Achor takes a really interesting spin on this in his book, The Happiness Advantage. (Achor also has a viral TedTalk, if that’s more your style!)
Achor posits that we’ve kind of got it all wrong. The conventional school of thought says: land the job, get the right romantic partner, fill up your bank account, buy the house, and then you’ll finally be happy. (I’m tired just thinking about that, you?)
But Achor says that’s backwards. That that equation doesn’t yield happiness—it just yields disappointment, burnout, and never quite reaching our goals or full potential.
Instead, we make ourselves really happy first, and then the rest follows more naturally.
Achor’s theory is similar to the Law of Attraction in many ways: that we attract what we’re putting out literally or energetically. If we’re stuck in a lack mindset, always wanting the next achievement or more, it will not come to us. But if we sit back and focus on our energy first and foremost (and you can replace “energy” with “happiness” to align with Achor’s whole deal), then we become much more magnetic and attractive for the things that we desire.