Self-Esteem and Your Thinking

Self-Esteem and Your Thinking

We first introduced you to the idea of how our thoughts have a massive impact on our reality when we discussed neuroplasticity, which is the concept of our very moldable and malleable brains. We can literally rewire our brains when we put some intention into it. We then revisited this concept when we discussed changing our thinking; we looked at tools and practices to put into place in order to catch ourselves in a negative loop and then reframe that thought pattern.

And now, we’re going to apply these concepts to our self-esteem, or the way we feel about our self-worth.


When we discussed changing our thoughts, we introduced the practice of using affirmations. Affirmations are short little statements, generally “I” statements, that we repeat over and over (and over) until they begin sticking. Even if we don’t believe them when we begin, we can trick our brain into buying it over time. This is an amazing practice to use for self-esteem, because we can begin to flip that self-talk to positive self-talk with time and intention.


Today, spend some time noticing what your internal self-talk is, some of the ways you feel about yourself. Write it down when you say something harmful to yourself, like “I hate myself,” or “I’m the worst.” At the end of the day, we’re going to flip these statements.

If your internal self-talk said “I’m the worst and no one loves me,” your new affirmation will become the opposite: “I’m awesome and am worthy of love.”

Write it on a thousand sticky notes to put all over your house—your bathroom mirror, your computer, in the middle of the book you’re reading, next to your spot on the house. Repeat this mantra all day, every day. Set alerts on your phone to go off every 15 minutes with this message. Repeat it a hundred times a day.