Self-Acceptance + The Six-Factor Model of Psychological Well Being
The final piece to the multifaceted psychological well-being puzzle that Caroline Ryff created is the concept of “self-acceptance.” In short, this idea speaks to how you feel about yourself; how that inner dialogue sounds when you speak to yourself in your mind, if you feel positively or negatively about yourself as a person, if you accept yourself in all of your lovely complexity. If you like yourself.
Simple stuff, right? (*deep inhale*)
To be fair, this factor can be lifelong work in many ways. We experience so much conditioning that puts pressure on us to look a certain way, act a certain way, be a certain way, and when we have difficulty fitting into those narrowly defined boxes, we may find that we’re pretty quick to trash talk ourselves in our head.
Poor markers in the self-acceptance category can manifest in that poor self-talk, but they can also look like confusion about who you are and who you’re meant to be, wishing you or your life or your circumstances were different, and a high level of self-criticism. Needing feedback from others for every single decision can be a sign of challenges with self-acceptance, for example.
But when we nail this category, we find that we have an overall positive outlook on our talents, abilities, and personality. We are able to view our past with acceptance, even if it’s not perfect, and we know that our choices are solid. (And hey, even if we screw it up, that doesn’t make us a trash human!)
And the good news is that so much of the work you’ve already done here at Reframe is this self-acceptance work at its core. In fact, working on our relationship with alcohol requires a substantial amount of grappling with who we are, who we were when we were drinking at levels we were dissatisfied with, and who we want to be in the future. And knowing that we are alright, we’re still a good human, the whole way through it.