Releasing the Past

Releasing the Past

When we come to the decision to remove alcohol from our lives, we often do so because we realize that it is no longer serving us. That it has never served us. Part of the process of this breakup is releasing the past and moving forward. That’s often easier said than done though, isn’t it? Today we’ll look at how we can take the lesson out of our past and carry only the parts that help us forward.


When we think about a past experience that brings up a lot of negative emotions for us, it can be difficult to view that experience through a lens of silver linings. But when we can take the pieces of a challenging event that are instructive, that we handled well, that taught us something, and release the rest, we’re able to grow and learn from the past. If we can reframe it as something that happened “for” us instead of “to” us, we regain a sense of power, control, and agency.


Perhaps you’ve come to removing alcohol after experiencing a “rock bottom” event in your drinking life. That phrase is typically associated with shame, guilt, sadness, and embarrassment, but what if we saw it as something that happened for us to spark change? That without it, you maybe wouldn’t be on this new path to better yourself, your health, and your relationships? That you’ve experienced a breaking open that has allowed so much goodness to come in in the open space?


Can we take a piece from our “rock bottom” that we can learn something from? Did someone show up for you in that time that you hadn’t fully appreciated before? Did you show resilience or vulnerability or surrender in that moment, letting down your walls and allowing someone else in? Did you show up for yourself in ways you didn’t think you were able to before?