Perhaps you’ve started to realize that this alcohol-free journey is about so much more than simply not drinking alcohol; the act of not-drinking is just the first step. All of the work that comes after that act is the true work, and there’s a lot of it. Finding out who you are and who you want to be, without the numbing effects of alcohol, requires and yields a substantial amount of personal growth. The good, challenging, beautiful growth that comes with figuring out what your true purpose and highest good is.
And when we put in all of this work—when we build our self-care toolboxes, when we learn how to better identify feelings in our body, when we start to challenge cultural norms—we begin to transform. It’s very possible, perhaps even hopeful, that you will not be the same person you were when you first downloaded this app or began your alcohol-free journey. That person may feel like a younger version of yourself, or may be a complete stranger. You may be amazed at how much has changed in just a short time.
And all of this growth is beautiful and expansive, but it sometimes also has a cost. Some relationships may fall away, those who were attracted to the frequency you vibrated at when you were drinking may no longer spend time with you, and you might even find that you are the uninterested party in the relationship. The people, places, and things that used to attract us lose their shine as we realize we have moved on. There can be a sense of loss with this experience. If you feel that, you are not alone.