Noticing Your Positive Qualities

Noticing Your Positive Qualities

Sometimes when we’re in the depths of poor self-esteem, it can be difficult to appreciate or even notice the amazing things about ourselves. No matter who you are or what you’ve done in the past, you’re still a miraculous human being with a unique heart and cherished soul. But when we have difficulty seeing that, especially if our mental and emotional health has been damaged by habitual alcohol use, we must actively seek out the good and take an inventory of our strengths. This will help us make subtle shifts in our self-esteem and outlook.


Today, grab a paper and pen and begin to list every positive quality about yourself. Pay no mind to how small or inconsequential a quality may feel, just get it down on paper. If this is difficult, start with a few questions:

  • What do other people say I’m good at?

  • What challenges have I overcome, and how did I do that?

  • What is objectively positive about my creativity, my appearance, my work ethic, the way I relate to other people, the way my body moves?

  • What do I bring to the relationships I have in my life?

  • What do I do daily that is positive?

  • What achievements have I accomplished?

Perhaps this is still difficult to get down on paper. Instead, consider the following list of qualities and highlight the ones that apply to you, even a little:


Balanced

Kind

Innovative

Intelligent

Tolerant

Loyal

Frugal

Attractive

Cooperative

Down-to-Earth

Responsible

Goofy

Positive

Creative

Open-Minded

Accepting

Grateful

Strong

Courteous

Friendly

Focused

Flexible

Mature

Nurturing

Practical

Thoughtful

Selfless

Confident

Organized

Optimistic

Sensitive

Respectful

Humble

Determined

Forgiving

Skilled

Enthusiastic

Helpful

Decisive

Motivated

Brave

Insightful

Listener

Funny

Relaxed

Patient

Reliable

Realistic

Self-Directed

Honest

Cheerful

Generous

Resilient

Modest

Trusting

Serious

Independent