Noticing Your Positive Qualities
Sometimes when we’re in the depths of poor self-esteem, it can be difficult to appreciate or even notice the amazing things about ourselves. No matter who you are or what you’ve done in the past, you’re still a miraculous human being with a unique heart and cherished soul. But when we have difficulty seeing that, especially if our mental and emotional health has been damaged by habitual alcohol use, we must actively seek out the good and take an inventory of our strengths. This will help us make subtle shifts in our self-esteem and outlook.
Today, grab a paper and pen and begin to list every positive quality about yourself. Pay no mind to how small or inconsequential a quality may feel, just get it down on paper. If this is difficult, start with a few questions:
What do other people say I’m good at?
What challenges have I overcome, and how did I do that?
What is objectively positive about my creativity, my appearance, my work ethic, the way I relate to other people, the way my body moves?
What do I bring to the relationships I have in my life?
What do I do daily that is positive?
What achievements have I accomplished?
Perhaps this is still difficult to get down on paper. Instead, consider the following list of qualities and highlight the ones that apply to you, even a little: