Looking to the Future
Today, we begin looking to the future. We take the pieces of our past that have served us, shaped us, taught us, and we leave the rest behind. We recognize that our past is our foundation, but does not define who we are now or who we will be in the future. We forgive ourselves for what is done, and we start building a life that moves forward and focuses on the next right thing.
Easier said than done, though, right? You’re correct; this is not just a mindset we develop overnight, though if anyone can figure out how to bottle that up, I’d bet you could make a killing off of it. But we do begin to take steps towards that—we continuously give ourselves grace for the past and look to the future. One foot in front of the others, little baby steps at a time.
So how do we start looking to the future?
We address our shame. We identify our shame and put words to it; how it feels in our body, what it looks like, what created it. We speak our shame aloud, to one person or to a hundred. We receive the “me too’s,” or the “wow, I thought I was the only one’s,” or the “I love you anyway’s,” and learn that the shame has no power when we bring it into the light. We release the physical and emotional feeling of shame, and allow the experience to live in our past.
We identify our limiting beliefs, and we work to reverse them. What are the stories we tell ourselves, the ones that are holding us back from living in our greatest power? Are we afraid of failure, afraid of putting ourselves out there, afraid of slipping up with alcohol? When we can identify our fears, our limiting beliefs, we can use our practices like affirmations to conquer them.
We begin envisioning the big, beautiful life ahead of us, and we start living our life “as if.” As if we already have all the things we could ever want, already have the killer career and the fulfilling relationships and the big dream. We step into the person that those things require, and start living our present life as our highest self. We probably even write all of these things down, the big dreams. We “vision cast” the future—what it will look like, and most importantly, how we’ll feel when we’re there. We rewrite this future yearly, monthly, maybe even daily. We know that the power of writing things down on paper is a strong manifestor.
We take care of our physical and emotional health, because we know that a beautiful future requires the longevity of our mind, body, and spirit. That without our health, none of it will be as fulfilling. We invest in our future self by treating our present self with care; nourishing food, movement, rest. We no longer harm our future self by overworking our bodies, by neglecting our spirit, by consuming substances that hurt us.
And we recognize that our past is not our future. That who we were, what we did in the past, does not have to dictate who we get to become next. That one period of our life does not define the whole, that our struggles can be just a fraction of our big, beautiful life.