Finding Your Self-Care Go-To's

Finding Your Selfcare2

Your favorite self-care practices are going to be as unique as you are; here at Reframe, we can’t give you a checklist of five things you should do and call it a day. And finding what works for you, what you love, is a process of trial and error. But as you’re building your self-care arsenal, consider a few thoughts:

  • Make sure your self-care doesn’t have harmful side effects. (Like, can we please stop hashtagging #selfcare with a photo of a glass of wine? Alcohol is not self-care.)

  • Find practices that center you, help you come back into your body. Meditation, exercise, breathwork—these are some good options for this.

  • Creativity is an undervalued form of self-care. Creating, no matter how rudimentary, gives us a sense of adding value to the world.

  • Self-care doesn’t need to take hours—a quick five minutes may be all the time you need to take a moment for yourself.

  • Fresh air and time in/near water have proven scientific benefits for our well-being.

  • Movement is helpful when we want to mimic the dopamine hit we used to get from consuming alcohol, because it also releases good amounts of dopamine.

  • Because we know that back-lit screens can interrupt our circadian rhythms and sleep cycles, going analogue and unplugging is important in self-care.

  • What works for one person may not work for you, and you don’t need to force a self-care practice that feels misaligned for you.

As we begin testing driving different practices of self-care, pay close attention to the ones that come naturally, the ones you think of instantly. The less concentrated effort they take to think of, the better—often, when we’re in crisis mode, it’s more difficult to call on our healthy coping mechanisms. It can also be helpful to write down a few go-to practices in a notebook or in a note on your phone, where you’re able to quickly access self-care ideas without having to actively think of something productive to do. The more we automate this process, the better—this is another place to practice minimizing decision fatigue!

Today, write a list of three of your favorite self-care practices somewhere handy—your planner, on a sticky note on your computer, in a note in your phone. Bonus points if they cover the mind, body, spirit triad.

Harvard Health Publishing. (2010, July.) A prescription for better health: go alfresco.