Compassion and Kindness
So much of what we work on here at Reframe is practicing a kinder, gentler way of treating ourselves. No matter what path brought us to the desire to quit drinking, it’s likely that everyone reading this article could use a little more self-compassion and kindness in their life, right? Self-compassion is inextricably linked to self-worth and the way we see our value, and therefore, an integral part of living alcohol-free. No matter what we’ve done in our past, or how we got where we are today, we are worthy and loved. Self-compassion helps us remember that.
But did you know that compassion and kindness for others is also beneficial for us too?
Turns out, being nice to others, giving grace, showing kindness, performing acts of service, being generous, and so forth, are all incredibly positive experiences for the receiver and the giver. Sure, receiving a compliment feels good, but so does giving one, too, right? Or how about the feeling of donating $5 instead of spending it on a coffee—you get the warm fuzzies from that, right? What about being gracious when someone else makes a mistake? Does that feel better than yelling at them about it? I bet you're nodding your head.
And there’s scientific proof that kindness and compassion for others is beneficial for our mental and emotional well being. These gifts can change our perspective, give us a little dose of our favorite neurochemical dopamine, and even impact how we perceive physical sensations like pain and strain. (One study found that a box felt lighter to people who thought they were helping someone carry it up the stairs, vs. those who were just simply asked to carry it. Crazy, right?)